Signs That You are Doing a Good Job as a Father

I want to throw something at you to think about. How do you know if you are doing a good job as a father? Should we depend on others to tell us? Do we ask someone for feedback on how we are doing? These are good ways to get a feel on where you stand as a father, but feedback from others may be bias and sometimes over-opinionated. So how do you know?

Look internal. You look at yourself. Look at your actions. Look at your feelings. Look at your kid’s responses. Let me quickly explain. When you come home from work or you pick your kid up from daycare or school, what is your kid’s reaction when he or she sees you? My little man screams out DADDY each time I come home or when I pick him up from daycare. I can’t even explain how good that makes me feel. It truly makes me feel as though I am doing something right to get a response like that from him every day.

Next, how do you feel when you are away from you children for an extended period or when you miss one of your kid’s activities? If you feel nothing, then you need to check yourself to determine how involved you are in your kid’s life. If your kids remain constantly on your mind or you truly feel bad that you missed the activity, then that means you are and would like to be in every part of your kid’s life…acknowledging you are doing a good job as a father (even though you missed the event).

Lastly, how much do your kids like to hang out around you? Do they want to follow you around? Do they try to imitate things that you do? These are keys that tell you that you are making an impression on your kids. Just make sure you are doing positive things for your kids to imitate.

So I ask you now..."Are you doing a good job as a father?” Take a look at yourself and the actions of your kids to determine if you are doing all you can do to be a good father. If not, then step it up. If so, then keep the momentum going. We need to do all we can to ensure we produce a solid next generation.

I am going to leave you with that for now. Let me know if you are doing a good job as a father.

Don't forget; send me those T.R.U.E. Father pics of you and the kids to post on the blog.

Be strong and talk to you soon.

What is a "Good Father"?

I want to throw this question out there for you to get a pulse of what the perception is of "good fathers". What we think is a "good father" may not be what society perceives as a good father. We need to determine and establish a standard of what a good father is. Once we know this, then we need to live it so that it can be passed on to our sons and passed over to other fathers that we encounter.

So I ask you now..."What is a good father?" I want to compile comments to establish an outline and then start digging into each of the areas that are established. This will allow fathers to get wiser in areas they haven't encountered yet with their kids.

A close friend of mine, Chistopher H., gave me excellent feedback on what he feels a good father is. Here are his comments (verbetum)...

"My interpretation of a Good Father, would be someone who

is willing to accept the responsibility and consequences for

another individual's actions without hesitation or regret. A

multitasked individual who is committed whole heartedly

to facilitating the growth of his family: spiritiually, mentally,

physically, and financially. A "Good Father" , through careful

observation, must establish a road map for his children to include

flexibility, morality, and intergrity. Lastly, a "Good Father"

should strive to understand the better he maintains his

well-being the better servant is for his family. He must

understand the importance of maintaining his physical , mental,

financial and spiritual health to be the best Father he can be."

I am going to leave you with that for now. Let me know your definition of a "good father".

Don't forget, send me those T.R.U.E. Father pics of you and the kids to post on the blog.

Be strong and talk to you soon.